Disclaimer: (I wouldn’t want to sound so virtuous here, I just want to share some realizations, some points I’ve read and learned, and my own experience to my subject)
They say that being lenient or forgiving is a gift!
For the countless problems we are facing, it would be hard for us to describe a succinct illustration of how to be able to, for goodness sake, forgive and forget if we once endured the twinge of suffering, evil and prejudice.
Many of us might practice the even more horrifying art of payback। Call it revenge, vengeance and tit-for-tat measure। Let’s admit it! For once we’ve experienced pain from others, we would want to get even! Our thirst for passion to let them feel even more pain as much as we did radically amplify until comes justice that we once felt have escaped us। But what do we get? Only pain। An escalation of pain that destroy our rather forgiving self.
That’s why we should learn the art of forgiveness। As I’ve mentioned on my previous post that saying ‘I forgive you’ can be as difficult as saying ‘I’m sorry’। I’m aware that to be able to forgive, acceptance that someone has hurt you and knowing what you’re really feeling at the moment is important. For forgiveness might not be called forgiveness if we don’t know what have hurt us and what have caused us pain and anguish. But after the “gnashing-your-teeth” feeling, calm down. Don’t let ourselves walk around with an intense depression, for we are forbidding ourselves from joy and bliss because we are busy getting angry and emotionally disappointed. Rather, let’s offer ourselves peace by forgiving those who have offended or upset us.
After all, forgiving is not about forgetting the event or reason that have hurt us. It’s a choice we made so that we may begin tomorrow with a positive and clean slate. What I mean is, we may not eventually forget the injustices that drove us to resentment, but we have the choice to decide to forgive someone by letting ourselves free from feeling hatred and bitterness (that’s why it’s a gift we give ourselves!). I know that it will take a lot of strength to do so, but it involves a strong determination that we must begin to start with certainly positive new day!
So let’s promise ourselves to stop blaming others from the unfairness that we have suffered। For at the end of the day, you are the only person most hurt by holding out grudge and anguish, no matter what the reason is. Make peace, and then make love! (yiiii!)
They say that being lenient or forgiving is a gift!
For the countless problems we are facing, it would be hard for us to describe a succinct illustration of how to be able to, for goodness sake, forgive and forget if we once endured the twinge of suffering, evil and prejudice.
Many of us might practice the even more horrifying art of payback। Call it revenge, vengeance and tit-for-tat measure। Let’s admit it! For once we’ve experienced pain from others, we would want to get even! Our thirst for passion to let them feel even more pain as much as we did radically amplify until comes justice that we once felt have escaped us। But what do we get? Only pain। An escalation of pain that destroy our rather forgiving self.
That’s why we should learn the art of forgiveness। As I’ve mentioned on my previous post that saying ‘I forgive you’ can be as difficult as saying ‘I’m sorry’। I’m aware that to be able to forgive, acceptance that someone has hurt you and knowing what you’re really feeling at the moment is important. For forgiveness might not be called forgiveness if we don’t know what have hurt us and what have caused us pain and anguish. But after the “gnashing-your-teeth” feeling, calm down. Don’t let ourselves walk around with an intense depression, for we are forbidding ourselves from joy and bliss because we are busy getting angry and emotionally disappointed. Rather, let’s offer ourselves peace by forgiving those who have offended or upset us.
After all, forgiving is not about forgetting the event or reason that have hurt us. It’s a choice we made so that we may begin tomorrow with a positive and clean slate. What I mean is, we may not eventually forget the injustices that drove us to resentment, but we have the choice to decide to forgive someone by letting ourselves free from feeling hatred and bitterness (that’s why it’s a gift we give ourselves!). I know that it will take a lot of strength to do so, but it involves a strong determination that we must begin to start with certainly positive new day!
So let’s promise ourselves to stop blaming others from the unfairness that we have suffered। For at the end of the day, you are the only person most hurt by holding out grudge and anguish, no matter what the reason is. Make peace, and then make love! (yiiii!)
I agree!:) We should all practice the virtue of forgiveness; it will be our loss if we don't. But it is easier said than done, MOST especially to those people who did not even ask for it (and didn't even care). ^_^
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ReplyDeleteI agree! :) We should all practice the virtue of forgiveness; it's our loss if we don't. But how about those people who did not even ask for it (or possibly, didn't even care)? How do you deal with them? I guess, forgiveness is, really, easier said than done. ^_^
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