What is sorry for?

Saying, “I’m sorry”, “I apologize”, can be a little so difficult to say. Why? Perhaps, those words get hold of an incredible power. One honest apology gives out many purposes. It can dissolve anger, mend relationships, heal a broken heart, and can even have health benefits (such as lowering stress levels. Yeah right, according to one article from a study conducted by – I forgot the name of the university, ha-ha!).

Initially, we apologize because we realize that something we did or said hurt one person and we feel that we were not right to do or say so. Ideally, a request for forgiveness conveys genuine regret for hurting someone. On the other hand, there were times that saying “sorry” is merely an attempt to receiving a quick forgiveness for something you did wrong, whether you’re apologetic for your action or not.

When you think you’re in the wrong, you must regret your actions, take responsible for those actions and be ready to willingly remedy the situation! (Now, that’s sincerity!). However when you know that you’re both to blame, meaning you both know that you’re likewise at fault, one of you shall initiate an action or the “I’m sorry, I know we’re both at fault” drama. (Yah! Ha-ha!).

Nonetheless, even though we know that saying sorry can be as hard as no one has ever imagined (for some person), I believe that it’s also stodgy and heavy reacting to that apology. If you’re the person that’s hurt, maybe you’ll react differently, depending on the level of hurt or the manner or situation you’re into.

It’s vague and unclear when someone says, “don’t worry about it”, or “ok lang”. The ambiguity of those words remain baffling and puzzling to someone, especially because saying, “ok lang” rarely means that. The ‘ok lang’ phrase may mean, “yes you’ve hurt me, but im not ready yet to forgive you for doing so.” (I plead guilty about this. I must admit I’m oftentimes like this.). I only say ‘ok lang’ because one person is trying to find for some “closure” about an issue, and most of the time, I’m simply not ready for that closure and there’s a possibility that the issue may be brought up again in the future. Some person says, “I’m sorry” over and over, and it’s irritating. Yes, we may know that you’re sorry, but one must understand that everyone needs time to absorb everything or is too upset over what’s happened and isn’t ready to let go.

Just wait and don’t think that the one you’re sorry for isn’t giving you any room for peace at all. Wait for the time that person tells you, “I accept your apology”, or “Apology accepted!” Just be sure you have made that person felt your being genuinely apologetic and that you wouldn’t try to do it ever again. That manner, you will know that the person you’ve hurt is now willing to forgive you, and is now ready to inevitably accept the apology. In my case, I must’ve understood fully what I’m feeling and why I felt hurt in the first place.